I often get asked about people with autism and why we show emotion in a different way than people without autism.
People with autism do have emotions just like everyone else, but we aren’t affected by those emotions the same way, we don’t express them the same, and we don’t remember or recall them very well.
We can be considered cold or dispassionate, even robot-like, without visible emotion. This is a big misconception. We do have strong emotions going on inside, but we don’t know how to recognize them in ourselves or how to express or explain them to others.
Typical people express their emotions through subtle cues, like body language and tone of voice. Those of us on the autism spectrum don’t pick up on those cues very well.
When someone is sending emotional data to those of us on the spectrum, and from their perspective it seems as if we’re ignoring the data, it tells them the situation is not important to us. The truth is, we don’t even know we are sending that message.
Emotional understanding and expression is a very cultural thing. Japan for example, places the emphasis on NOT expressing emotions. Regardless of where someone lives, if they are on the spectrum, they will undoubtedly have the same struggle within their culture.
So just because someone on the spectrum may not seem to care, it is very likely that they do care, and either they do not know how to express that care, or they think they are expressing care, when indeed they are not expressing their emotions the way that is understandable to most people.
Always try to remember, people with autism are still people. We just express ourselves in different ways.
Thanks for reading, and I hope you enjoyed this post! Please let me know if you ever have any questions.