Louden on Autism Q & A: Feeling Different

Autism Q&A
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Welcome to the Louden on Autism Q & A. This week, I’m back to answer a question submitted by a website visitors to shed light on some of the most important questions about autism. I receive questions every day, and I want to make sure that the answers to these important questions are being shared with all of you.


Please know that these are my opinions and my answers come from my research and my own personal experiences. Of course, each situation is different. All of us as people are different. And no two people with or without autism should be treated the same exact way.


This week, I received a question about how people with autism sometimes feel different and inadequate. Here are my thoughts.




My son has so many feelings of being different and inadequate, and I was wondering if you knew what I can say or do to help him?




It’s difficult. Most autistic individuals who are at least interacting with the world around them are likely to recognize at least some of their differences.


My biggest recommendation is to try to give him the opportunity to be “in the lead.” Often if you’re doing a lot of therapy or education or other things, you’re following other peoples’ instructions and rules. Between that and the struggles of autism, you rarely have a chance to feel “in control” or even “right” sometimes.


If he has an interest, let him teach you more about it. Or look for activities like games, video games, or even just sharing a favorite book, movie, or TV show, where he can have control of when and how you do things, and be the one to “teach” you about it. This can help build a degree of confidence that, over time, can start to show elsewhere as well. Confidence and control are very, very important.


Thanks for reading. Check back soon for another Q&A.

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