Welcome to the Louden on Autism Q & A. This week, I’m back to answer a question submitted by a website visitors to shed light on some of the most important questions about autism. I receive questions every day, and I want to make sure that the answers to these important questions are being shared with all of you.
Please know that these are my opinions and my answers come from my research and my own personal experiences. Of course, each situation is different. All of us as people are different. And no two people with or without autism should be treated the same exact way.
This week, I received a question about older people with autism and how diagnoses can be different for those people who aren’t children or in their youth. This is a very common topic, so I wanted to address it in this week’s post.
Every time we discuss with my son about getting a job he shuts down. His story is that he worked for IBM after college for two years. He was then let go because of sleep problem. He has $60,000 in student loans and we need to find him work, any suggestions?
This is a difficult situation many on the spectrum find themselves in. Failures lead to a loss in confidence, but you also often learn not to trust your own feelings of confidence. You’ve been confident before, and failed, so you learn you can’t really judge whether you’re ready to try again or not.
On top of that, you often have people telling you “I believe you can do it,” but you’ve seen them be wrong about you before. It’s also difficult because as long as you’re feeling pressured to get a job, it adds to the anxiety and uncertainty, making being successful at the job more difficult.
The most important thing, really, is to work to reduce pressure. That means focusing on other things, helping him find a place in life where he feels competent at just having reliable days. Address the anxiety, depression, and other symptoms.
Also, it may be valuable to look into SSI disability income. For some it’s important as a long-term tool to help stabilize things, but it can also just be a stepping stone. With the income from SSI offsetting the time-pressure that can come from being unemployed, it can make searching for a job feel less panic and anxiety inducing, and more something about finding “the right job, where I can succeed” rather than “any job, so that I’m no longer unemployed” which often can lead to more failure, and further loss of confidence.
Thanks for reading. Check back soon for another Q&A.